on the way home from DD {{bc apparently there was NO preschool today for jk...it's no prob, really...we just rushed around and scrambled and got in the car and then when we got there and there was no school...well, there were tears...thus DD}}, there came a moment of sincere sadness in my heart.
jk: "mommy, i want to look like brookie"
"why sweetie? you are the perfect jada"
jk: "i don't like my brown skin. i want peach skin like brookie"
i just sank. does that not make ur heart want to break? a 3 yo is struggling already with her skin being different. then, this happened:
brooke: "jada, god made you and he loves you. he does it all right the very first time"
then, i think my heart grew three sizes.
jada threw a big smile up on her face and said, "ok. god loves me"
now, if we all could just do that. god loves us...he doesn't make mistakes...he makes perfect works of art. sometimes there are scratches in the art. sometimes chips. sometimes we've been repainted. but we are all perfect works of art. it's a great reminder for me...
"i praise you because i am fearfully and wonderfully made."
another great reminder: raise your children in the faith of the lord...and they will be blessed...and, so will you. (proverbs 22:6)
danyele @ a thorn among roses
{{from my 12/2/2008 post}}
{{from my 12/2/2008 post}}
Danyele, This was a timely post for me because a dear, grown-up friend of mine is having problems believing that she's perfect just the way she is....and I was failing again and again trying to get God's message across to her. I sent your post to her to read. Thanks!!
ReplyDeleteSad but then beautiful. I remember this post. You had it awhile back on your other blog or something????? I came over here from Chronicles of a Mommy. She's beautiful, no matter the color!!!!
ReplyDeleteBitter sweet...I love that Brooke was able to let Jada know how perfect she is...:) It made my mornig to read this! :) Thanks...By the way...how did you learn to do her hair so good?...Ive always heard it was hard to learn...Great job! :) Meme
ReplyDeleteShe is simply BEAUTIFUL...inside and out!!!! You can tell her one of your bloggies said that...but you and she obviously know whose opinion really matters! I think God's praise and love is so much more valuable than anything any person might say or think! Blessings to you and your beautiful girl!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful little girl Jade is! You can just look in those beautiful, brown eyes and sweet face and know that God planned her beauty just perfectly! I'm so glad you were there to help her see that. :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a heart-wrenching conversation! That is awesome that Brooke knew exactly what to say. Such precious, beautiful girls.
ReplyDeleteI do not know if Jada is adopted or not. We have a 6 1/2 year old son that we adopted at six weeks old that is African American. We are white and he is a beautiful dark chocolate brown. When he started going to preschool a few children told him he was the color of mud and they wanted him to be white. He was only 3 1/2 years old. My heart just broke for him. I listened and he finally said to me "Momma, if I'm not brown, I wouldn't be Grady." My heart sang as I saw my sweet boy understand who he was. He looks for brown people where ever we go and we live in a city that is mostly white. It is a challenge but we have grounded him in our Christian faith. It sounds like Jada is getting it too. Your doing a great job.
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